In my search for a better understanding of the meaning found in relationships (which in both my to-be “remasters” posts, and in already published posts, I take positions at different extremes.
In my Love post, I asserted that any conception of love is meaningless and founded on a naïve and superficial ideal, and that those pursuing it fail to recognize that the “Why” behind love makes it a paradox- an overglorified and overcomplicated incarnation of the inherent evolutionary and biological drive to court, mate, and reproduce. This being the case, I concluded that both emotions and love are illusions, programmed into us by society and ultimately by biology. Love would then be a false incentive designed with ulterior motives in mind.
Later on, in posts such as “The Justification of Emotions” (written in homage to one of my first posts, “The Justification of War”), I leaned more towards supporting emotions; most notably: emotions and love are inherently illogical, thus any attempt to discredit them using logic is void.
While both claims are true, at some point I realized that this so-called truth is irrelevant, as any attempt to identify absolutes is also a paradox, due to our cognitive bias and imperfect perception. Furthermore, even if we were to find any one truth, it would instantaneously be corrupted by its exposure to us (see Silence is Golden post), and thus lose all otherwise retained meaning. Then again, as ironic as it might be, the derivation of meaning in a given thing is indeed what causes something to lose its meaning. In addition, if my analysis of the Uncertainty Principle is accurate, discovery of such a truth would polarize it into a lie (although this is perhaps a different way of describing the effect detailed in Silence is Golden.)
When I wrote the post Pride (which was probably my first major psychological breakthroughs, albeit inaccurate and incomplete), I knew that I was missing a great deal of the necessary variables to complete the proverbial equation– this I indirectly admitted in the questions and uncertainty trailing at the end. But I knew I had to start somewhere. I knew that Pride was the beginning of something big, that it was a vital component in my search for the meaning of life- that, and its relationship to the Ego. I’ve covered so much ground in my quest for the meaning of life, and the bulk of it can surprisingly be summed up in one very simple word: control.
Everything we do, say, or want in life- it’s all motivated by a need for control. Most people seem to think that “control” is too strong of a word to account for such an abstract and supposedly unreacheable answer, but that’s because none of us (including myself of course) know what control really is.
I think that’s the point that Charles Manson was trying to make. I can understand why he wanted to stay in prison (which in retrospect they should have let him). People abuse each other and open themselves up to abuse, lie to each other while they themselves are deceived– all the while ignorantly living their lives in complete denial of everything, while living in their own little “perfect world”. Like myself, Mason knew that people needed a wake-up call,, and to some extent, he succeeded in that venture. While most would consider him a villain, to me he is a hero, and deserves respect- perhaps even a martyr. I won’t claim to know his real motivations, but actions speak louder than words anyway, and judging by his actions, we are in agreement regarding many things that most people take for granted, like control.
And that leads me to the real focus of this post: Popularity.
Short version: There are two key components of being popular:
(1) People having perceived control over you.
(2) People perceiving you as worth controlling.
Popularity (in its perfect form) requires a perfect balance between these two. In achieving such a balance, you are guaranteed to be popular. Thanks to the powerful influence of the Ego, the greatest fear for everyone (universally)is not something that is known, but everything that is not known. Thus, the three things that no one desiring to be popular should ever wish on others: Fear, Doubt, and Chaos. If the Ego (and it’s manifestations of Desire, Control, and Expectations) are considered good, then the above three are pure evil. “Hatred” is then by contrast not so bad, as a person you can be just as popular by having people hating you as by loving you.
The next most important thing is having an identity. Not just your own identity, but one acknowledged by others. Having a nickname alone can dramatically increase popularity, simply because it provides a level of perceived familiarity, and that allows others to feel more secure– thus, something as simple as a nickname will actually help you meet other people’s needs. For the same reason, fitting into a specific culture, subcultures, and anything that carries expectations with it– after all, the whole purpose of the identity is to be the supporting contruct for expectations, which in turn exists to support the Ego:
*cliques, stereotypes, lifestyles, religions, political positions.
*music, film, television, and literary genres. *pastimes, games, hobbies, and types of humor.
*morals, ethics, personality, social life, hopes, dreams, goals.
Whether they know it or not, everyone would feel much better if they could fit you, and everyone else, into a tiny proverbial box. After analyzing pride to determine its purpose, I found that everyone, myself included, has a need to validate their existence.
Here is where i came to a logical obstacle, because, as famously expressed by Descartes, the proof of our existence is inherent– “I think, therefore I am”.
But I’ve finally realized, we don’t have a need to prove that we exist– rather, we have a need to prove that we should exist. That is, all humans have an inherent need to know that our thoughts, feelings, actions- and their very existence- can be justified, validated, and approved by others. We all need to know that we’re living the right lives, that our best is good enough, and that we have direction in our lives- that we’re even going the right direction. The need to validate anything is illogical, since it should be clear that such validation is illusionary.
Because we have a need to be in control, we have no choice but to assume that certain knowledge, especially knowledge concerning ourselves, is knowable- in this case, that we can know that everything we do and say, and our existence, can be validated. For this reason, validation itself is a paradox. (As you should have realized by now, I am extremely fascinated by the concept of paradoxes.) At this point it should be abundantly clear to everyone that there is nothing in existence that is knowable, and especially not something as abstract and philosophy-oriented as self-validation.
As I pointed out in my Love post, we are programmed at the biological level to survive, mate, and produce strong offspring (which is actually an extension of our survival, as we live our through our children). We are also programmed to believe in such illogical concepts as eternity, immortality, knowledge, faith, power, morality, friendship, love, time, theism (belief in god(s), truth, value, etc. for the same reason: Survival.
As we continued to evolve, God [“Mother Nature”, etc.] realized that to survive, it was necessary to mankind to be programmed in such a way that he was compelled to develop a social ecosystem. This is probably the true meaning behind Genesis 2:18- …”It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” In other words, God realized that alone, mankind was not likely to survive, so to ensure that, God programmed mankind to have social needs, that he might seek out relationships, and in doing so ensure his survival. *I think that this programming is hinted at in the verses afterwords, which serve to establish the context, where God created animals and birds, and drew them to Adam that he might name them.*
So as several people have said in the past, and I too am compelled to reiterate, “Man is a social creature” That is, we are programmed at the biological level to have our needs met by others. We seek out validation within ourselves, and being imperfect, cannot find that validation. In theory, one could rely entirely on themselves to survive, without any assistance, or even interaction with others. But while I believe such a scenario will become inevitable in the near future (see Points of Authority), at the present time, our Ego will not allow for that.
Regarding the Ego: It should be clarified that the Ego, although appearing to be what gives us our perception, logic, motivation, and every kind of cognititive bias, this is not the case. It’s confusing because these things are in fact products of the Ego, which infers that the Ego causes them. One mindset to help you understand this, and has served as a great inspiration for me– and also is in very close connection with the meaning of life: “Different ways of looking at the same thing.”
This is where it gets confusing, as the Ego itself seems to be responsible for the way we look at things, as perception is a product of the Ego. But the Ego itself does not have a consciousness, the ability to decide, a will, the ability to feel or think or act– the Ego itself cannot actually do anything. It is a puppet. So the Ego might be considered the self, but at the same time, it’s not.
Basically, over time we build up a pattern of adaptations: personality, identity, espectations, habits, norms, morality, ethics, trust, power, goals, dreams, etc…….and over time, these things become more refined and detailed, and changes become smaller. Normally, the details start become so small that the impact on their actions become negligible- For males, this usually happens somewhere around ages 25-30. According to some research in the field, creative potential in males usually peaks around this time, so perhaps this is the reason why.
All of the traits by which we establish our identity- collectively these would be known as the Ego. Can the Ego exist outside the identity? Perhaps. Desire itself is not part of the Ego- it is actually to some extent the opposite, since uncontrolled desire is known as chaos. Control and Expectations are part of the Ego, and both fall under the Identity. In the Triangular Theory of Love (which I often reference when attempting to deconstruct the self), there are three elements that determine the type of Love: Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment.
*Intimacy is the product of my concept of Control.
*Commitment is the product of Expectations.
Passion, on the other hand, is a specialized form of desire– that is, Id applied towards a specific object (in this case, a lover) So what then is the third point of the Ego’s triad? In Hegel’s triadic system, there is a thesis (positive force), antithesis (negative force), and synthesis (reconciliation of positive and negative- the product of balance between polaric forces).
If I were to plug in these three:
Passion (Chaos) –> Thesis (+)
Commitment (Expectations) –> Antithesis (-)
Intimacy (Control) –> Synthesis (+/-)
Interestingly enough, Intimacy is considered to be an incomplete form of love, suitable only for friendship. The reason for this, is that our conception of Love is imbalanced. I first thought that Love in its ideal form would be the perfect balance between chaos and control (Creativity is actually the product of such a balance, which is what made such an assertion an entertaining idea). But then again, all ideals are by nature imbalanced. True love does exist, but an true enduring love most definitely does not. Everything in existence has three primary elements, which determine the identity of the self:
(1) Essence [nature]: The original pattern that it was built upon. The ultimate essence of all that is the Logos, of which the Ego is the finite reflection [manifestation] of. Of the three components, this one is the most difficult to find, understand, change, or communicate. Most people never discover their true nature, and even for those they do, changing it proves to be exceedingly challenging. We are able to change the more superficial aspects of it (such as habits, but only by “tricking” it by appealing to public image [shape]– which leads me to believe that we are not actually tricking it, but rather, in accordance with its nature (which includes the hard-coded drive to develop relationships with others), we are forced to utilize social image to change these aspects, thus fulfilling the higher-priority social needs.
The Essence is the first of the three to develop, as it is the blueprint for the remaining two elements. It is the true self, and understanding it is the only way to unlock our true potential. It encompasses habits, personality, sexual orientation, morality, and inherent strengths, weaknesses, tendencies, etc.
Due in part to the dominance of the more social aspects of the identity (Character/Image), most of the Essence remains dormant until triggered. Some examples include: sexual orientation, mental illness, substance abuse, perversion, belligerency, hidden talents, sympathy/empathy, paranormal abilities, pet peeves, etc. It is the self as reflected by the Logos.
(2) Character [color]: The spiritual energy that gives life to the Essence. The music that gives meaning and value to all that is the Logos– The personal SuperEgo is the finite reflection of this. This self is relatively easy to find, understand, change and communicate– but we often take it for granted. When in previous posts I have said, “most people don’t know themselves”, this is the self I’m referring to. We tend to take our character for granted, and instead of understanding this part of ourselves, we let other people that we trust define it for us. For those aspects of our character that we do choose to change (which in most cases we only change because people that we know don’t like those areas, or feel that there is room for improvement), motivation is inherent, as it is a social self.
The purpose of the Character is to provide an interface by which to interface with other people, living things, objects, and ourselves. When we communicate either physically, verbally, or via media (writing, music, video, etc.), we transfer spiritual energy. Everything has spiritual energy (see Spiritual Energy post)- even rocks and dirt- and the character provides a platform to facilitate transfers.
Every time a transfer occurs, there are byproducts, and we derive appreciation from those byproducts– in the form of feelings (emotions, “vibes”, chemistry etc.), and impressions (self-comparison, compatibility, mutual interests, etc.) So our perception of other’s character, and even perception of our own character, is actually a byproduct of our communication [transfer of spiritual/creative energy) with the world, reality, and our own self– a reflection of our true character.
The Character encompasses stereotypes, dreams, goals, interests, communication style, aesthetics, tastes, personal values, physical appearance, self-esteem, inhibition, trust, pride, etc. It is the self as reflected by Spiritual Energy [Pythagoras’ Music], and the transfer thereof. It is the world, reality, and the self interacting with each other, and the byproducts of that interaction.
(3) Image [shape]: This is the most complex and omnipresent of the elements, and as a whole it is called “Society”. It is the world becoming aware of itself, and rationalizing what it sees. While the Character is based upon the reflections of interface with others and with the self (looking at oneself from the outside), the Image is based upon the world reflection upon itself as a whole. The interpersonal (social) SuperEgo is the finite reflection of this. The Image is different from the Character in that the Character exists to give the self depth, and to facilitate the perception of intimacy (and thus the developing of relationships and the Psychological Bond), the Image exists to provide a superficial shell by which to blend in with Society.
This of course means that Society itself is the product of all of the shells blending together. The Image is inherently [in-and-of-itself] empty and meaningless, and exists only for appearance’s sake; in other words, to “fit in”. While everything in existence possesses an Essence and Character (though sometimes very little), the Image is unique to sentient beings (those possessing a consciousness), such as humans. It is a necessity for civilization, which is why humans are the only species to become civilized. All of the three aspects of the identity exist to protect something:
*The Essence exists to protect the personal self.
*The Character exists to protect the social self.
*The Image exists to to protect the Collective. The Japanese Society, for example, is considered by many to be in a state of “forced autism”.
That is, although everyone has a self, individuality is downplayed, and the needs of the Collective are top priority. Thus, the Image (superficial appearances) accounts for most of the identity in Japan. Similarly, the celebrity lifestyle requires that the Image be top priority, which is likely why celebrities are considered to be extremely superficial– they have to be! On the other hand, while Image does play a role in American society, Character is the highest priority. as such, we encourage diversity, education, cultural awareness, individuality, social networking, etc.
[create Image of The self– shape (society’s shells) –> colors / texture (character –> base(?) –> collective consciousness (all pieces together = jigsaw puzzle.]
Getting back to the incentives that inspire social needs: Ideally, we would live our lives independent of each other, being completely content with exploring and experiencing the world, interacting with other people for the sheer experience and entertainment, not needing relationships or dependence on others to be content or find happiness. But as this is detrimental to survival, our Ego makes us suffer when our social life is lacking, and rewards us with happiness when it is thriving.
Note again that the Ego does not actually do anything, it merely reflects the pattern upon which it is built (the Essence). In addition, the Ego must answer to the incessant demands of Id (which is pure desire, and wants everything, starting with what’s right in from of It), and the SuperEgo, which demands conformation to the rules and norms of Society; in one analogy, this was depicted as the slave of two unruly masters. The Ego punishes us with chaos (desire) , doubt, and fear– and rewards us with control [intimacy], trust [expectations] , and happiness [serenity]. In simplified form, these agents of control could also be known as the pleasure center and suffering center, and are what the Ego use to ensure our submission to it.
I think it’s quite interesting how the Ego seeks to control us, but has no control itself. It raises questions in my mind about the nature of God’s existence- i.e. the Bible never mentions once that God has freewill, which implies that the Ego may in fact be God incarnate– an argument I have thought extensively about. Thus, the Ego ensures that freewill will never truly be a part of our lives, although to foster a balance between individualism and collectivism, it programs us with a false sense of freewill; ultimately, we are slaves to our Ego.
There is only one way to truly be free of the Ego (although there are several others that allow for temporary and incomplete freedom, of which I am currently living in- actually). However, it’s probably only possible in very extreme circumstances, when the need is great: Disassociation. But Disassociative freewill is only perceptive– while the Ego would indeed become irrelevant, and essentially a “different person”– outside your perception, the Ego are one and the same, and you would probably be crazy (due to MPD / Disassociative Disorder), just like me. And as the change would only be perceptive, you Ego may well be continuing to influence you- the only difference is, you would not be aware of it, as you would perceive the Ego’s changes as your own; this is not too much different from the ignorant masses that are not even aware of their Ego’s influence, so it might very well be a futile endeavor, as you would be far better off being ignorant, and probably more happy.
So now that I’ve determined everyone to be slaves to their Ego (and that apparently there is no escape), let’s see how this relates to Society: The existence of God, and of the persona that God takes on, clearly matches up with the otherwise unnecessary needs the Ego forces us to provide for ourselves- God gives us a direction, freewill, an identity, a higher power (security), a perfection to compensate our imperfection, etc.
The existence of God, at least perceptively, was, is, and always will be an inevitability. We are programmed by the Ego to believe in a higher power, after all. That is not to say that God does not exist, but rather, belief in God is an evolutionary necessity. In Points of Authority, I go into how this belief (and most other beliefs instigated by the Ego) will soon no longer be necessary, although such beliefs will be part of the world for many years to come. In the same way: religion, traditions, norms, politics– everything identified as part of Society– they were all born by, survive by, and thrive because of necessity– the needs of the Ego.
Thus, because Society (and its agents and institutions) is the product of the Ego, we are slaves to society. And for the same reason, our servitude to society was, and is an inevitability. After all, anyone who is not a slave to Society or the Ego would have to be certifiably insane (like me! :p) This is not to suggest a sort of *fatalistic* outlook on life– rather, *Knowledge is Power*, and making use of such power (unfortunately) requires accepting it.
Life is indeed a fractal, in that no matter how many times one divides (analyzes) oneself, and adds according to that analysis, you will never be perfect. 50+25=75; 75+12.5=87.5; 87.5+6.25= 93.75, and so on. No matter how many times you repeat the process, you will never reach your potential (100%). But while we’ll never completely achieve freewill, being closer to it than others is an achievement in itself.
Now that we have this knowledge, we can apply this to achieving popularity: As noted by prettyfedup.com, we are evolutionarily programmed to bond with each other, seek out our kind, and rely on each other– The reason for this being (as explained earlier in this post) that this is the key to survival: Interdependence. As also explained in Points of Authority, Instinct is the refined form of Materiality, and the Ego is the further refined and spiritual form of Instinct.
Thinking from this perspective, I’ve realized that humans and consciousness are just the very complicated and evolved form of animals and Instinct. Animals are programmed biologically, as are we. The big difference is, that our biological programming is predominantly displayed in a far more sophisticated form- namely, Society. So we are our programming manifests itself both at the biological level (i.e. genetics) the psychological level (Ego), and the social and sociological levels (personal and social SuperEgo’s.)
Since Society is then just a more complicated form of Instinct, we aren’t too much different from animals– and retrospectively, animals aren’t too different from plants– it’s just that we’re more advanced than animals, and animals are more advanced than plants. When the Singularity takes place in what I believe to be ~20 years from now, humans will also be considered inferior. But of course, eventually (hopefully in my lifetime) we will all ascend the higher plane of existence (i.e. pure energy), which would knock any previous evolutionary iterations completely out of the picture.
Perhaps complications might not be that good of thing anyway, although I’m something of a masochists, so I wouldn’t be able to tell you… Put simply, because we are programmed by the Ego, human being are sadly very predictable, and thus very easy to manipulate. And in this world, where control is unfortunately one of the few things that gives life meaning, it’s either manipulate, be manipulate, or be alone. Ahhhh….Sweet dreams are made of this! :-) Personally, I don’t want to be alone, and I don’t want to be manipulated either….Oops, only one choice left! I realized this terrible truth over 2 years ago, although I didn’t understand WHY until now.
I wish I could gift-wrap it, sugarcoat it, or white-wash it, but the truth just isn’t that pretty. As aforementioned, turning knowledge into power requires accepting it…and the most important things in life are the most difficult things to accept. To make matters worse, ‘with great power comes great responsibility’ [Spiderman]. I don’t want to accept so many things– or any of this for that matter– but I know that I have to if I am to move on.
Due to the complexite mentioned earlier, the Big Box called “Society” is split into a myriad of smaller boxes, such as cliques, stereotypes, and norms. These exist so that people will know what to expect, because everyone wants to know what to expect. You should note the following: Expectations: perceived knowledge of the future; produces faith, goals, dreams, plans, commitment, etc.
Doubt : fear of the unknown future; produces self-sabotage, suspicion, disattachment, etc. Intimacy: perceived knowledge of the past; produces trust, *bonding*, unity, interdependence, etc. (???): fear of the unknown past; produces alienation, sociopathy, division, independence, etc. *fix: connection of (???) to Expectations/ Doubt; etc.
Desire: knowledge is irrelevant, as all knowledge is experienced and discarded “in the moment”. In controlled for, it takes the form of Creativity. If uncontrolled, it produces Chaos. Expectations, along with the Identity and Pride, are unique in that they exist solely as agents of the Ego; Expectations are particularly relevant to this post, because its purpose is to provide a common ground– a communial comfort zone, with *Other People*.
While we all have expectations of ourselves, there are inherently not our own, but are the more complicated byproduct of Other People interacting with us– the bastard of the perceptions of those that influence us, and our own perception of that influence. From a logical standpoint, to achieve popularity, one must focus on catering to the bigger boxes first– that is, focusing on the things everyone has in common.
This is in fact why that most stuff on TV is crap– to appeal to the largest customer base possible, one must multiply by the proverbially greatest common denominator. And unfortunately for the rest of us, most people have very little taste in anything. Because [most people] don’t know much about anything [either subconsciously or knowingly], they rely on Other People to tell them who they are, what they like, and how to live their lives. But Other People (naturally) don’t know either, because they are just as lost. Matthew 15:14- …if the blind leads the blind, they will both fall into a ditch.
On the other hand, we have more niche boxes like nerds, geeks, emos, punks, goths, intellectuals, etc. While it will be more difficult to achieve significant popularity with these boxes, the popularity with niche groups will be far more high quality, and thus long-lasting. For example, philosophy is one of the most underestimate and niche subjects of academics, and even more so of the world, but even the most ordinary of philosophers have achieved fame that has lasted for centuries. By contrast, most celebrities are forgotten just a few years after they retire.
The reason for this is not because the fanatics of philosophy are more intelligent or intellectual, but because they are more passionate in their support of philosophers than mainstream folks are of celebrities. But unfortunately, most popularity is short-lived, and fueled by television, music, hollywood, and mainstream cultural, artistic, and marketing groups, telling people who they should be, how they should live their lives, and their superficial appearances– we live in a materialistic society, and this all results in a vicious cycle of mass-produced Other People.
In addition to the higher-quality popularity of niche groups, there is also a much more powerful sense of belonging, a strong identity, and a high level of comfort when in association with other of that group– one such that a nerd, for example, could never possibly feel when with a jock, and vice-versa. It all comes down to understanding each other (Intimacy). As the comfort-zone is somewhat incremental, an emo would then feel more comfortable with a punk than with a nerd, and a jock is more comfortable with a punk than an emo.
There are some advantages to this large box / smaller boxes system:
For example, even though geeks do not fit well in the Society box, they can be popular with other geeks as long as they ‘fit in’ in the geeky sense. There are no true misfits, as such individuals will still fit in with other misfits. Expectations then appear to be a good thing, in that fulfillment gives peace, happiness, and comfort. But of course (as we should all know by now) that is just the Ego tricking us.
In ealier posts, I defended expectations in that they allow for change, growth, and self-improvement. But then I realized a crucial problem with this: Such a mindset would mean that nothing is good enough. Especially in this day and age, things should be good enough. But because of expectations, that is only the case until something ‘better’ comes along- and nowadays, that would mean that nothing is ever good enough anymore, because there’s always something better. The world will never be good enough– nothing will be. Thus, because of Expectations and Hope, we are forcibly given a glimpse of Hell.
The Majority of this post, I’ve focused primarily on the first component of achieving popularity: To be “worth being controlled”. I knew early on that I had a lot of potential, that I was unique, that I was intelligent, gifted, knowledgeable, skilled, and talented in a wide variety of areas. For this reason, I was confused as to why I had no friends, and why I’m isolated, despite my obvious inclination and proactivity to socialize. It was not until coming to Clearfield Job Corps that I realized the error of my ways:
It’s not that I’m not worth controlling, it’s that I’m perceived as uncontrollable. Granted, it’s probably better to be in my position than one who is controllable but treated like shit, especially if that is the case because they proverbially are shit. The position I’m in right now has a huge amount of potential, which is why this component matters so much to me. The second component, “perceived as worth controlling”. Something I’ve excelled in (for the most part): Everyone needs “Somewhere to belong”. Give them that place, and they will follow you wherever you go.
It’s human nature to expect more of oneself, others, and reality than what could ever be fulfilled. You can blame this on the Ego, which ensures that nothing is ever “good enough”. Ultimately though, we should blame the Logos, which requires that everything become infinitely more complex. Our inherent need for perpetual complexity drives us to change, break down, build upon, remaster, remix, clarify– in short, complicate every aspect of growth, and we perceive these adaptations chiefly through change, time, knowledge, growth, memory, skill, analysis, and by rationalization, justification, and validation.
*TANGENT*
If God exists, he is evil, because to appreciate anything we must understand it, and the understanding thereof requires comparison, and to compare anything requires standards, and thus limits. As perfection in a given area requires that a the given quality(s) be infinite, imposing limits causes us to become imperfect, and thus corrupt. This is exactly what the Fall of Man (Genesis 3) was all about: The Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil is a concept that represents the first standard ever known to mankind, and the breaking point at which his journey of perpetual complexity (and thus corruption) began- the line between good and evil.
I think that it’s a travesty that Christians fail to recognize the true meaning behind one of the most historical significant passages in the Bible. It’s not as if what Adam and Eve did was Evil…Did the Bible ever once say that Adam and Eve had sinned, or made the wrong choice, committed evil, or anything of that nature? No! Sin did not exist until after Adam and Eve ate of the fruit, and what’s important here is that Knowledge of Good and Evil is what made them corrupt.
The corruption caused by the first division, and thus the first law (which is very simple: knowing that good and evil exist- at that point, it can be assumed that the criteria for good and evil were not yet defined.) Adam and Evil (and their descendants) only gained the capacity to sin after eating of the fruit. The first known sin (as recorded in the Bible) was Cain killing evil. This set in place the first criteria for sin: Murder Is BAD! Good to Know :p Another important thing to consider is that Christians consider Satan to be evil, and that his act of mutiny was so great of a sin that it was unforgivable. But the Bible never once says that Satan ever sinned, that he was evil, or that either he or God have freewill.
On the contrary, judging by the character of both Satan and God, neither of them appear to be capable of freewill, because it would go against their nature. Jesus’ interactions with demons and his time spent with Satan in the desert– both strongly suggest that God and Satan (and their affiliates), though at odds in their beliefs, frequently make use of and/or manipulate each other to serve each others’ purposes, as a counterbalance; I particularly enjoy the passages that demonstrate the contests and bets that God and Satan make with each other, with Satan making challenges to egg God on, and God accepting to protect his pride (The entire book of Job is dedicated to this). God and Satan are in many ways are like an older and younger brother- always fighting and competiting, but extremely intimate and having an incredible bond. Because it’s human nature to be corrupt (and corruption produces suffering), humans are inherently evil.
The physical standards we have to compare ourselves against are plants, animals, fungi, and all of nature. Everything in nature [besides humans] is simpler, and thus more pure. Both purity and corruption are also incremental, and so more basic specimens of nature, like rocks, are even more pure and good than say, plants, animals, and of course- us. But such standards are based on the Epicurean perspective that suffering is evil and pleasure is good.
The above assumptions of course are void of complexity= suffering were the entire equation, as rocks (as far as we know) cannot feel pleasure or suffering. This however relies on the answer to another seemingly ridiculous (but surprisingly deep) question: Do rocks have feelings too? To answer this, we must answer an even more deep question: Is the identity prerequisite to feeling anything (i.e. pleasure, pain, and the emotions found within that spectrum)? If not, rocks may well feel a lot of things, but simply have no identity by which to express it.
*End TANGENT*
When people reach their perceived limit in fulfilling expectations, or a limit in the ability for reality or other people to fulfill their own, they respond in what can collectively fall under a few reactions: The primary determining factors for how people end up living different lives, are:
(1) How one perceives Reality (Self / Ego)
(2) How one’s environment perceives reality (SuperEgo / Society)
(3) How these two different perceptions of reality interact with each other (Character / Spiritual Energy)
You can put the blame on anything you want, but in the end, you can only blame yourself. Ultimately, it’s you versus the world, plain and simple. The truth is indeed harsh. In the words of Sum 41, “Everybody’s got their problems, everybody says the same thing to you: ‘It’s just a matter of how you solve them, and knowing how to change the things you’ve been through’.”
The primary reactions (upon reaching those limits): Denial, Apathy, Anger, Despair (giving up), Humor (sarcasm, etc.), Perseverence, Depression, Desperation, Procrastination (distraction), Scapegoating, Rationalizing, Indignance, etc. I think it’s important to understand that, as reflected in the above list of responses, there are far more negative ways to deal with it than there are positive. Due to this inherent negativity, most people (and perhaps all, to an extent) need to rely on others to compensate for their own perceived flaws, and the flaws of Society.
If I can accomplish or have accomplished something that you feel you are incapable of replicating (and desire to do so), you will rely heavily on me, love me, admire me, and need me, because only through me can you get the feeling of fulfillment for those desires, even if that feeling is only an illusion. Even though the feeling only exist on a virtual level, everyone has the tendency to piggy-back on the dreams of heroes, mentors, celebrities, and legends.
Neither Love nor the Identity apply to the present, as that which is known, understood, and appreciated can only be done a posteriori (after the event), and only that which is not known (the future) can be expected. When such factors come into play, the Identity is revealed to be meaningless and superficial, having no real social value. Although the superficiality of the identity has always been a reality, it sometimes (and perhaps usually) only becomes clear in the more extreme circumstances.
If however person loves another, and their love is so genuine that their very identity is more important than their attributes, values, personality traits, appearance, demeanor, and everything else that ultimately makes up that person, that might be considered “true love”. But this is what True Love really means: No matter how you change, what you do, or even how you respond to their love– or even if you’re “worth” loving– nothing about you really matters to them, except that you are you.
That’s why they call it “unconditional love”- it’s quite literally without conditions (since you will always be “you” in the most basic sense, that doesn’t exactly qualify as a condition– not anymore than the law that says “x=x”). Although rare, I do believe that such a love exists, and it’s the only kind of love not motivated by the Ego or Instinct– pure love. However, a love of such caliber is idealistic, and like all ideals is extremely dangerous, and usually tragic.
A cousin to pure desire, one possessing such a love will do anything to hold on to the object of their desire. In the event that the one they love should die, there are only two options: Suicide or Denial, the latter of which is perhaps even more dangerous- and tragic, as they spend the rest of their lives believing the one they love is still alive. Idealism violates the rules of Balance, and the consequences for realizing it (making it a reality) are severe. Love is no exception. Then there is the kind of love where a drastic change in a person will cause their lover to completely disassociate their love from that person. This is what Jesus was referring to when he said, “I never knew you” (Matthew 7:23). And this beckons the question, “How is that unconditional love?”
The fact is that although these sentiments are prerequisite to friendship, we are not attached to each other in the individualistic [identity] sense. Everyone is selfish, and is in love not with those they are friends with, but with the image the person presents, and with the needs that person provides. Once the needs are not met, and / or the image of a person changes (particularly when it changes drastically), all of that so-called love will disappear, as it is no longer relevant.
This is exactly the kind of superficial love encouraged by Society, and is perhaps more in line with Balance. For example, in the inspirational film “Freedom Writers”, when the heroine’s husband files for divorce, she tells him, “I love you!”, to which he responds with the harsh truth: “You don’t love me…you love the idea of me.” So true! That is the result of the opposite extreme- loving a person only for the image they present– loving the ‘person’ you fell in love with, rather than loving someone for who they are. Loving someone for who they are is one of the most challenging loves to find, and most people never find it. To love someone even if they do not fulfill your needs, even if they change beyond recognition, even if they act as if you were invisible–that kind of love is a miracle! Otherwise, you may have a whole lot of good stuff going for you, but nothing to hold it all together.
To get people to love you:
(1) Understand yourself and others.
(2) Understand their needs, wants, desires, dreams, and expectations.
(3) Be considerate of them in setting your own.
Don’t let anyone underestimate you, and don’t overestimate yourself. The most important factor of success for anything is Balance. Take every opportunity to fulfill the needs of others, and if possible, anticipate their needs as well (in moderation). Everyone needs someone to look up to, but be careful– don’t patronize, smother, or be condescending to anyone; don’t do anything that might make others feel insecure or uncomfortable.
Understand these things, so that everyone always feels like you bring out their best, and confirm that feeling to them, all while maintaining a selfless focus. One of the most important factors of popularity is self-expression. Any time a person expresses themself, be it via music, dancing, language, logic, emotions, intellect, or pure socialization, they are constantly releasing spiritual energy.
The more spiritual energy a person receives and retains, the less in control they feel (and the less in control they are.) By releasing and transferring spiritual energy, a person will be an feel more in control, and that spiritual energy will be passed from them to whatever objects, or persons they send it to. Thus, everything you do, say, or convey to others– especially emotions and negative self-expression– will overwhelm the receiver(s) if the energy attached to such expression is too great for them to handle. Those who can handle the reception of a great deal of spiritual energy are very rare, and might coloquially be called “open-minded”.
By contrast, those who are very limited in their spiritual intake are known as “closed-minded”. A person’s spiritual intake potential can be genetic, or the product of their environment. Spiritual energy is the source of creativity, while too much of it results in chaos. Thus, some music may be too chaotic for some people, while not chaotic enough for others. This is a very crucial part of popularity, and is also likely the reason why my blog is not that popular: There are two stages to filtering spiritual energy– the first is done by the Giver, and the second by the Receiver.
Almost no one is able to properly filter, and thus interpret spiritual energy– That is why good music is so hard to find– very few people have great enough filtering ability to properly interpret the music. But once such artists suceeed in doing so, we end up with music, which is actually the filtered form of chaos, known as creativity. When we listen to it, we (usually subconsciously, though consciously in my case) filter it again, and our own own interpretation determines the final perceived quality of the music. That is why some music sounds terrible to certain people and awesome to others– in this respect quality is relative. By limiting creative discharge (expression), the intensity of a person’s total discharge will greatly increase.
How this applies to popularity: every way that you communicate with others- gestures, actions, words, writing, and every form of creative expression– how you filter it, frame it, make it look, and how much emphasis you put on the needs of those who observe and interact with you– that they might easily understand you, connect with you, and– as fully as possible– appreciate the value of everything you are, do, say, and stand for, determines how popular you will be. Essentially, if you want people to like, appreciate, and look up to you, you’re going to have to get on their level, and treat them in such a way as you most want to be treated if you were them. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It may well be that the intended interpretation of this verse would require adding in “if you were them”
For example, because I have overwhelming levels of creativity, most people will likely barely understand most of my writing– much of it will probably go way over their heads, and they will not understand most of it– not nearly well enough to even agree with it. But then again, I don’t write for anyone’s sake but my own– if I did not write as much as I do, I would probably commit suicide. Writing is quite literally my life- my savior. I have so much spiritual energy that to do nothing is pure torture. I know I am destined to do great things, and I have little choice in the matter, but I’ve yet to discover what those things are, so I write.
When communicating with others– in any way, and in every way you express yourself– be conscious and considerate; know and take into account the spiritual limits of everyone who is affected by you. There is a reason why you have certain creative interest, and everyone else has so many different interests, and this is it. Express too much, and they will be overwhelmed and hate you. Express to little, and they won’t even know you exist. Popularity depends heavily on finding the perfect balance between these two. The other important thing, is to make sure that the objective value exceeds the energy that the value is attached to. Very few people like to be ‘inspired’ randomly– it ends up making most people few left-out, lost, jealous, and every other feeling associated with rejection.
Remember this: To accept is to limit, and to reject is to unlimit. Unlimit = Chaos; Limit = Control. You want them to feel in control. Everyone wants to belong, so find out what ‘belonging’ means to them. One of the most vital aspects of manipulation is compromise, so find that common ground whenever possible. If the same level of energy is transferred in few words instead of many, the words will then be far more powerful [and thus influencial], not just perceptively, but inherently. And because less words are manageable, it provides those affected with a higher sense of control, as well as the message possessing far greater clarity. The same goes for every other form of expression…Good Luck!